How has motherhood changed the way I work?
My rapidly-growing baby boy turned nine months old yesterday. I can whip out all the adages to express how quickly that has gone by, but I thought for this #31daysofblogging post, while we’re still talking about family sessions, that I would talk a little bit about how motherhood has changed how I work.
I took on a lighter wedding season this year so that I could spend more time with the little one. Certainly there are more pieces to juggle than there were last year - it takes me longer to get out the door even when I’m not leaving with the baby. I had to think about less-glamorous issues, like how the baby was going to eat while I was gone (and then, the least-glamorous question, where do I pump while I’m working? I’ll spare you the details).
But I can say that the biggest change has been entirely perceptual. Similar to how my perception of weddings changed after I was married. I noticed different things at a wedding after I was married, based on what I actually remembered from my own wedding. Yes, I wanted the details captured (floral arrangements I spent sleepless nights agonizing over, DIY escort card ideas), but more than that I wanted the moments that would never be repeated. My Dad’s toast, our crazy friend’s dance moves, me tickling my little niece.
Now the father-daughter, mother-son dance? I well up like a baby. I feel blessed to capture that moment, because I can see in those mothers’ eyes what I see when I look at my little boy. The sweet pride on their faces at their grown sons is so touching. For the first time I was able to think about what that moment might look like for me, decades into the future. And, in the end, that’s always what I come back to in wedding photography: this fleeting moment in time, this specific collection of people there to celebrate one couple. That’s what makes every event unique.